Safety First

In the beginning of any relationship you want to take precautions in your approach, you want to make sure that you discuss everything necessary to ensure that you are compatible
Even though you may take a commendable effort to do these things there is typically a lot that we over look because we are so caught up in looking at the things that happened to us in our previous relationships, so the things that are really important in dealing with our personality in the present get overlooked
Approach that person with an open mind and an open heart, clear your vision when the conversation starts and try not to look at them with visions from the past, you tend to give that person that is your experience (Ex lover) more power over your future
People only get away with what we allow them to get away with, once someone has taken advantage of us we build up a wall that is unnecessary in our future relationship because we are suppose to start from scratch
It’s not to say that our past isn’t a great guideline to revisit every now and again to take self inventory on where we are now and if we have truly learned from that past
When the new person is in your life then you are telling that person you are ready to love again, that you are over your pains, sorrows, and mistakes
To come into the relationship ready to fight and in a constant defense mode makes it very difficult for that new person to see you as a person of love, so those people tend to treat you like a project of rehabilitation and not love
When you turn your potential lover into your “Mr. or Mrs. Fix Me Up” you tend to lose their respect eventually, it can be that they are tired of hearing your sob story, it could be that they get tired of waiting to seeing a change in you, it could be that they feel they are being used, or it could be that they no longer want to try to love the unlovable
You yourself are responsible for getting your act together before joining a life with a new person, so before saying yes or pursuing a would be lover, stop for a moment and make sure that you have taken the necessary steps to ensure that you are ready to love and ready to be loved