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Being at odds with what is right and what is necessary can be very confusing at times. You may feel that what is right should be cut and dry with no room for changes or distractions. On the other hand, what is necessary can be painful, sacrificial, and could destroy a lot of what has been built. If you are standing on a crossroads and each destination is tempting and shows sign of reward, you can feel torn…literally torn to make a decision. Keep in mind that no matter what you decide, there will always be the possibility of hurting others, destroying relationships, changing your fate and starting a new life or continuing on a journey that you may have traveled before.

In our lives we are given these choices. At times it isn’t noticeable of how huge the decision we made without realizing it was. It may have become second nature to make decisions because you have accepted the path you are currently on and to stray feels wrong and at times terrifying. I had an interesting conversation with my sister Tiff about this and we both realized how much our lives and our roles in our lives have changed. The great thing about it was that we both didn’t see any negativity with us traveling a different journey.

Though there are people in our family that are going through changes that are new, painful, difficult, confusing, and a bit hurtful. The best way to know if you are living right is when you can put yourself aside to be there for the ones you love. The moment you can stand up when they feel like falling, when you can laugh for them when they cry, when you can curse when they feel to hurt to express anger…being a friend is harder than being a sibling. It isn’t hard because of what the relationship is, it’s hard because you become connected in a way that you were not prepared for and at times your role can change in an instant.

Be true to you, be honest with you, be straight up about who you are and the rest will eventually lay out or at least be visible enough for you to know what to do next. If you are at odds, make a decision that will make you feel happy and closer to your dreams. Just because it can hurt others doesn’t mean you should live a lie for the betterment of other people. If you haven’t before, it’s time for you to live for you.