I had a very interesting conversation with a long distant friend. While talking they just yelled out that no one wanted them. It took me by surprise and then the therapist in me kicked in.
To make an assumption that strong says a lot about how you feel about yourself. He wasn't the first person to say this to me. To even assume that you've met every person in the world is such a joke.
Both people have different issues. The one that stated this to me on the phone is so desperate for love that he will give the first person that shows him attention anything they want. You can never buy someone's affection because as soon as they get what they want they are done with you. The reason being, is that when you start a relationship built around monetary value you have ended any chance for true emotion to take place. People feed off of what you give them. If you approach them with your arms full of gifts, then that's all they see. You have covered your heart with the packages in your arm and you can't blame them for wanting what you give them.
The other person said this to me in a text message. He has a picture of his self half naked with a mask on his face. How do you expect people to see past sex when that's what you are displaying for the world to see. A hoe can never become a lover because a hoe lives for the lust and not the love. When a man views your picture he doesn't see that you have honest eyes, kissable lips, and an innocent smile, he can only see that you have a bulge in your underwear, a nice ass, and lips that could suck the seed out of a grape through a wooden fence.
People love is simple, but we make it difficult. It is up to you how you want someone special to enter your life. You control your destiny and it is in that destiny where you get what you give.
When you state that no one wants you, then when you don't find anyone you get upset, well you only have yourself to blame because the energy that you placed into the universe is pushing potential love interests away and now you're confused as to why no one wants you for the reasons you want them.
Sex is a part of life, but it shouldn't be the leading reason for a connection and it shouldn't be confused for love and affection.
Gifts are a part of a relationship, but it should never be the first thing presented to someone you barely know. It marks the nature of the relationship and that's all you will ever be in that relationship, a gift giver.
Stop tripping over your own feet and start sweeping the dirt that you have covered over your true path in life. It's when we start living for ourselves in our true place in the world that we find the person that we are meant to be with!
Live life and love strong people!
I've felt that way for a long time. I had to learn over time that words are powerful and what you say about you is pretty much how you feel. If you say no one will want me, you'll end up alone. I think reversing the way you talk starts with the way you think about yourself and I learned that in a harsh way. It's time that people, including myself, realize that we have a lot to offer than sex and know that the right person will see those qualities. That special person will love you for who you are.
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