Searching To Become Whole

Thinking about the reasons why people cheat and it came to me once I realized how much comes with the idea of doing so
In no way do I condone someone hurting another in the ways of fulfilling a sexual need that could be discussed and worked out with the person you are in a relationship with
There are several ways to cheat however, these are only a few
You can cheat by talking to someone other than your mate, the person you reach out to gets all of your inner most feelings while the person you are in a relationship with gets your distance and negative emotions
You can cheat by spending time with another other than the one you are in a relationship with, this person you reach out to takes you places that the person you are with doesn’t
You can cheat by thinking about this person to the point that you envision them while having intimate moments with the one you are in a relationship with
You can cheat by giving and accepting gifts from someone other than the person you are with, these gifts could hold very important feelings and could symbolize a connection that is not respectful to the one you have with the one you are with
In saying all of that, you know that you are with someone that doesn’t fulfill your every need, the person that you love isn’t showing you the attention, won’t talk to you the way you need to be talked to, they don’t buy you the things you really love and need, they don’t spend the quality time you desire and long for
When talking to a few people I got a lot of the same responses and my question to them was a simple one: “If this person doesn’t fill these voids then why are you with them?” The responses were pretty much the same, “I love them”
That brought me to another light, if you love someone that doesn’t do the things needed to make you happy then maybe the problem isn’t you loving them, the problem is you learning to love yourself
People get placed in our lives for a reason, and if that person in your life leaves you wondering why, then maybe you have learned all you needed from that experience and you need to let it go
It isn’t love if you aren’t feeling loved, it isn’t a relationship if you aren’t living to your full potential, and it isn’t a great connection if you are seeking fulfillment elsewhere
The issues that we face are mainly the issues that we allow to grow and blossom in our lives, we use the word “Love” like it solves so many problems, you need to understand that love is just the connection that brings people together, but a true connection is when all voids are filled and the wondering is no more
When you meet your soul mate things become clearer and you see what was missing from your life before you met them and it all gives you such clarity, you then are able to teach what you know because you are in the place you were meant to be
By all means never give up on love, but please learn from each experience and use those experiences as guidelines not to repeat the same cycle over and over again in your life