Enough Is Enough

The problem with making promises is that eventually people will hold you to those promises. When you tell someone that you are going to make changes, do better, do more, be more present in the moment, and they come back to you and state that you aren’t doing it…anger at that person should be the last thing you feel. If someone has given you chance after chance to make right what has gone wrong and you don’t make a visible effort to fix it, then you shouldn’t be upset when your words hold no validity at all.

Don’t say that you are going to walk a different path from the one you’ve been walking. The problem you find is when you look down on this “new path” and you see footprints ahead of you…that means that you’re walking right back on the path you promised to detour from. The issue that surfaces with walking the same path is there won’t be anyone walking beside you.

No one should need to request or demand that you do better in a relationship you are a part of. No one should need to wait for you to get your act together when you have vowed to be in the relationship and you’ve accepted the relationship duties. Every day we see how the world changes and that a future isn’t a guarantee anymore, it’s a gift. Do you really want to waste time making empty promises that you are not keeping.

When someone loves you unconditionally, that doesn’t mean that you can give them your ass to kiss and expect them to still love you despite the lack of emotion, dedication, communication, affection, and trust. The person still holding on to the relationship isn’t a fool for holding on, they are just allowing their emotions and feelings to run their full course so that when they finally say that they are done, there won’t be anything left to bring them back.

Sometimes a breakup is more therapeutic than sitting in a room with a third-party trying to teach you how to communicate with the very person you claim to love so much and fear losing. Sometimes the answer is right in front of your face and yet you choose to keep doing what comes natural and easy for you but makes it irritating and horrible for the other person. In the end, it is just selfishness and lazyness.