The Point Of It All

Missing the sound of their voice, the touch of their hand, the beat of their heart on your back, the stretch of the morning rising, and that first glance when your eyes meet one another
Things are not perfect in life but when you can appreciate the little things about each other you must be living right
When you can argue or disagree but not lose out on that loving connection then you are still on the path of greatness and happiness
People tend to hold on to every little issue, every little disagreement, every angry remark, every forgetful moment, or when they do something less than perfect
Think back on all of the many little things they remember, the little things they do that you tend to forget, the little things that you never got before you met them and now you can’t live without
When the darkest times come into your life and you have so many things to be happy about then you are truly understanding of what is being created between you and that special person
When it hurts to hurt them, when you cry from seeing them cry, when you worry when they don’t answer the phone, when you are a nervous wreck waiting for them to tell you that they have made it home safely, when your heart beats faster and faster as the clock let’s you know that they are on their way and you are about to see them again
What is the point of being loved?
What is the point of being with one person for life?
What is the point of sharing their last name?
What is the point of being in their presence?
The point of it all is that life is never guaranteed and blessings don’t always come to those that wait for them. There are points in life when it seems like that darkest moment never leaves us. Most people run through thousands and thousands of people and never meet that one special person that you want to give your life to, your heart to, your future to, and share your past with. The day that you meet that person and you feel like a better person because of them to me is the point of everything else.
Never forget about the little things because as we all should know is that those big things wouldn’t stand as strong without the support of the little things that most take for granted.

When In Doubt Kick Him Out

I had a very interesting conversation with family and family friends. The topic was about being in a relationship and having outside people contacting your significant other. One part of the conversation was telling the person that you don't appreciate them calling your man or woman's phone. Threating the person to get the point across that you are their mate and that they cannot have them.

The other part of the conversation was that the mate should be the one getting the blunt of the angry tyrate. Letting the person that you've chosen to be in a relationship know that you aren't going to stand for the bull of them flirting and exchanging phone numbers and flirty playful remarks back and forth.

I had an in between view on the situation. Having experienced that sort of disrespect in my own relationship, you tend to attack it depending on how it came about and what part your partner had in it getting out of hand.

When you start a relationship you put on the table who you are, what you are about, what you won't deal with, and what you have previously dealt with. If after getting the 411 from you they still do something disrespectful then that is your choice to handle it the best way you know how.

The only thing that I would advise is after dealing with the other person, your partner or both, it still doesn't seem to get the point across, show their ass the door. I am a firm believer in second chances but I am also a believer in not being a fool.

When issues arise in a relationship and the common factor of the issue is the other person then you need to rethink your relationship, how you are handling the relationship, and the person you are in a relationship with. At times people don't take what you tell them as gospel because after you get on them you revert back to that happy relationship as if nothing ever happens. They then turn right around and do it yet again, you get angry, then forget it happened and start living that happy life that you are so desperately trying to maintain.

I feel strongly that you don't beat them up about it constantly if you have forgiving them, but you don't forget what happened. There should be a form of punishment for adults doing things that are seen as disrespectful to you and the relationship. As children we are taught those valuable rules of life and when we disrespect our parents we also disrespect the family. So when we become adults and we still don't get the point we should experience similar punishments.

I talk the situation out, let you know where I stand and what I will not stand for. If you choose to disrespect our relationship after the sit down and hash out, I then allow you a vision of what life will be without that sense of respect and trust. The person doing wrong most of the time will keep doing wrong because they are in a relationship with a loving and devoted partner so they keep burning that connection until that loving and devoted person turns into a bitter and angry partner.

When that happens the relationship because full of venom and the matters between the two become so hard to maintain that other negative energies are introduced to the relationship. You feel that you are stuck, you feel that you need them to learn, you feel that you made a promise and that you will stick to it, but the main thing that we forget is that we aren't the ones that did wrong yet we turn out to be the ones under the punishment rule.

We are being hurt, lied to, disrespected, and ignored. We give the partner that continues to screw up all of the power and we lose who we are. We lose that love and that light we have inside of us. I have been through, I have seen it, and I've heard it way too often.

Love is a very fragile thing, but trust is just as or more fragile. When trust is gone you have nothing left. You lose that love you had for that other person and they seem like weights around your ankles. No matter what you do that smile that was so effortless before becomes more and more of a task. When you realize that you aren't happy anymore it is time to take full inventory of your relationship.

Grab back your power and let go of what doesn't serve you any form of happiness. In the end of the life cycle you don't have that chance to experience a "Do Over" because we only live one life, but at times we have the opportunity to reinvent who we are and how we live. When giving that rare opportunity take it and run with it!

Waking From 1000 Years Of Sleeping

It's shocking at times what we miss when we thought we were living so full and catching every single blip on our life portrait
I felt for so many years that I wasn't being heard, that I wasn't being taken seriously, that people saw me but didn't notice the real me
I walk through this world wondering if my potential would ever get noticed
Would someone really stop, look back, raise an eyebrow and ask me to repeat what I just said
This entire time of me thinking this, it was happening
All of this time I was the one not noticing my potential, I was so caught up with looking at everyone else and not noticing myself
I was so hooked on getting feedback that I wasn't paying attention to myself
It boggs the mind on how we miss the obvious
How we never pay attention to what is right in our faces
How we just take so much time to search for something we feel is difficult when in fact it can be so easy and stress free
So after such a long slumber I am taking in account my surroundings
I pay attention to what I say and how it is being taken in
I choose my words wisely and I give every effort to make sure that what I say has been thought through and felt
So no more sleeping for me I am wide awake and as alert as ever

The Beginning Of The End

I sit at my desk today just wondering about life in general
Here I am taking phone calls from different walks of life and how amazing it is that no matter who I speak to I get that vibe of understanding and fellowship
I have strangers telling me how pleasant I am to talk to yet they've only spoken to me briefly but there is this unforseen energy that connects us
We make remarks on people within seconds of meeting them based on a vibe we may have felt or certain words that person has spoken
Then ending result is either you are right about them or you are wrong
When I meet people I instantly feel a burst of energy
Some times that energy feels negative and I instantly respond to it
Some times it's a warm and sensational feeling and I feel pulled into their space and it feels right so I figure them to be good people
The worse thing we can do is take in other people telling us about people we don't know
I see it so often that someone isn't liked because a person has told someone about them and that person takes their word and treats them awful without truly knowing if what has been said is true or false
We as a people tend to follow the flock and at times the flock leader
We forget that we have minds of our own and that when we practice our own sense of thought we find that we are different in many ways from those that we have befriended
The need to be liked and the need to be a part of a clique can have it's painful set backs because when we are adults we find that we have less and less power over our own lives
It the following isn't stopped at an early age we carry it into our adult life and even pass it on to our children
That my friends is the beginning of the end
When we lose our voices we lose our need for independence and originality
Don't be a follower, be a leader and shine as bright as your light will allow

That Love Thang

It's amazing that just looking a photo takes you back to where your heart holds dear
The thoughts of a journey with a loving stranger has changed your life forever
The future doesn't have a weight to it anymore
The idea of dealing with trouble isn't stressful knowing that this person stands beside you and holds your hand and soothes your soul
Knowing that his every waking thought is all about you and what he wants for the both of you
The way he caters to your needs and makes sure that you smile every day
The moment you look sad they are right there holding you and encouraging that daily smile they search for to get them through the day
Knowing that you are happy they feel that their life means more than it may have many moons before you met
The stress of the structure of a relationship some times takes away from the spirit of love but when you meet the soul mate that you have been born to love it all falls into place
You look back on your past and it doesn't make you cry because when you relive that past you know where the present leads you
You know that the story has a happy ending and that no matter the struggle during your happiness, it builds that love between you to and only makes you love each other more
Not being able to sleep peacefully unless the one you love is right there with their arm around you or your arm around them
Knowing that every dream you dream all though crazy at times, they always seem to have a purpose
The dreams that are random and have no structure means that your current life is where it needs to be and your subconscious mind isn't trying to tell you something
You can enjoy the little conversations while hugged up and curled up on the bed
The days you just look at one another and fall in love all over again
Knowing what they are going to say before they utter a word
Knowing what they like and what they dislike without asking
Knowing that you won't be happy doing anything without them
Even work feels like torture because you know that those 10 hours apart keeps you from seeing them, hearing them, touching them, smelling them, and just loving on them
When every moment spent together feels like your life is on total pause you know that you are loved and that damn love thang is real because you live it every single day

The Journey Back Home

Some how we believe that traveling back to where it all started would be considered a failure, a bad idea, the worse mistake possible
But once you have planted your roots back and actually take the time to look around, you realize that life has waited for you to come back
Your journey isn't complete and the decision to come back home was just another decision and another path to your final destination
When you constantly strive for perfection in your life and when things around you seem to fall apart you feel that you aren't living to your fullest capabilities
The truth is that materialistic items come and go but that soul search and mental build up can never be measured
When you realize that all of the fears you had when you were younger are no longer there
When people talk to you and are surprised with how much you've grown
When you come around friends and those childish issues that use to bother you no longer affect you at all
When you are settled and a relaxing day just loving family is more than having a list of things to do
When you can sit and just talk about your day and not the problems, the bills, the job, and the worry that the money won't cover all of the expenses
Most people don't realize that just because home was hard when you were younger doesn't mean it will be if you return
The change has to come from you
The change must be real and true in order for you to understand the transition
Most people run and keep running until their road has run out and they realize that they are running alone
Look back and notice the change in you first, then you will accept the change in everyone else
The journey back home isn't always covered with painful memories and bad experiences
The experiences that stick with you make you who you are today wheter that be good or bad
The choice to live right is yours and the power to make a positive change and remain positive is also up to you
Use the past as a map to the journey destination
Never be afraid of the journey back home

The Strength We Need

I believe that we all have the ability to tap into the strength inside of us
It just seems for most it takes a little longer to find it
That doesn't imply that it isn't there
Our lives are unpredictable and we never really know the path in front of us
Some times our lives show us what we need to see but we are too lost in our present that we don't capture the images
Some times we are so lost in our own drama that we ignore the solution to the problems that we face on a daily basis
Or there are people in our lives that step up and try to protect us before we have a chance to defend ourselves
We can some times rely on those people so much that we forget that we can be strong on our own
Or we love the fact that those people are there and it feels good not to worry about us for a change
Either way it changes the life process
It makes us at times become dependent and we lose our identity in this move
It may work for some but it doesn't work for everyone
It's funny when it comes down to it and you realize that you can and have to carry yourself
The funny part is that you may not have to search very hard to find it
It could be that you just got so caught up with being taken care of that you forgot that you could take care of yourself
It's not a bad thing to allow people to step in and help us in our time of need
The bad part becomes when we no longer want to do it for ourselves and get angry when people don't drop what's going on in their lives to help us out of our own mess
Never take people for granted because when they are gone you find yourself more alone than you may have planned
It's always a great thing to show people what you are capable of doing for yourself
That way the right person will come into your life at the right point and time
Always look within before you look out for the strength you need